My Two Friends

I just did something interesting.

Yesterday, I went to the normally blocked Myspace.com at my work and left comments on most of my good friends profiles. I had a good time remembering each one of them and I want to make it a once a month thing.

Anyway, I came across an old roommate that I was really close to. He and I hung out all the time, he shared his clothes with me, and we even bought the same clothes so we could look the same. He was so much fun and made everything we did so much more fun. Unfortunately, we had a falling out because he joined the Evil Axis and kicked me out of the house. It was a devastating blow and it was hard for me because we were so close. We didn't hang out after that.
But as I was browsing Myspace.com, I saw him on there. After a moment of reflection, I added him to my friends' list. Time really does heal old wounds. He lives in San Francisco now, but I believe that if we saw each other, we could embrace and I would have no hard feelings toward him.

On the other hand...

I received an email from a former friend a few weeks ago asking for forgiveness. He and I used to spend lots of time together, talk politics, and he helped me to decide to get more involved in Utah politics. Unfortunately, something happened and he became different. I don't know what the impetus was, but he just wasn't the same. Because of this, I had to sever ties from him.

I responded to the email today saying that I don't think we could be friends. This friend not only stopped being my friend, but he talked badly about me to other people. No matter what feelings I had toward this person, I never spoke badly about him (besides the immediate reactions of, "I can't believe what he's doing" and "He needs to grow up" that happen after an action) and defended him sometimes to people who criticized him. ''

The two friends both did awful things to me, but why can I be friends with one over the other? I think it's because the first friend only did one bad thing while the other kept doing bad things over and over.

Is it fair? I don't know. Time heals some wounds and makes you smarter about other wounds.